How to Get Your Wife in the Mood For Sex - 7 Action Steps

By Kate Dixon

If you find yourself longing for greater intimacy and more sex with your wife, you are not alone. A lot of men feel this way as they struggle to figure out why their wife seems to have lost her passion. In this article I will share 7 action steps to help you get your wife in the mood for sex. I hope and believe that these will help you have a lot more hot sex with your wife.

1. You need to woo - A lot of men think that the wooing part is behind them once they tie the knot. It's not true. You need to continue working on "winning your wife over" day after day. It never ends. Sure, you may not need to buy her flowers every day but every once in a while is nice. Always think that you need to make her love you again and you will have a better time of making her want sex again.

2. Women are driven by emotions, not just physical attraction. This means that you have to be emotional around your wife to get her in the mood for sex. Tell her how you feel, show her that you love her, make her feel wanted. All these things will help her connect to her emotional side better and for you to seduce her more easily.

3. A clear mind is an open mind - Women need to have a clear mind to be open to sexual advances. If the house is a mess and there are plenty of chores to do, your wife may not be that open to sex right now. You need to make sure your wife is free of her obligations and the stuff "she has to do right now" to be open to have sex with you.

4. Your wife needs to feel sexy. If she comes home from work, tired and feeling that she doesn't look her best, you need to compliment her and let her feel like you only have eyes for her. This will make her feel wanted and in the mood for some lovemaking.

5. Don't just jump on your wife the minute she gets home. Build up the sexual tension throughout the day by sending her sexy text messages, have a boquet of flowers waiting for her when she walks through the door, or cook dinner for her. Let her gradually slide into the having sex frame of mind.

6. If you wife is open to sweet talking and dirty talking, this may be a way to get her in the mood. Knowing how to combine some dirty talking and sweet talking can prove to be a powerful seduction technique. Try it out and see how it works.

7. Look and smell your best - I just had to get this off my chest. If you want to have more sex with you wife, you have to be clean and smell nice.

My Wife Isn't Interested in Sex Anymore - 3 Tips For Inspiring Intimacy

By Robbie T. James

Marriages are among the most complicated of all human relationships. Just by the very fact that husband and wife share so many personal and intimate things - including a home, cars, possessions, finances, (sometimes) kids, and even a common bed - makes marriage an extremely intimate, complex thing.

There are a number of key dimensions of any marriage that need to be working properly for it to be considered a happy one. These include effective communication, a general agreement on how to live life day to day, a common vision of the future, and healthy sexual relations.

In fact, when the sexual side of a relationship loses its steam, other aspects of the marriage can start to go by the wayside as well. If you find that your wife has lost interest your sex life together, this can be a very frustrating experience. It is very important that you face this problem head-on and in short order so that you can heal not only your sex life, but the entire relationship.

If you are saying to yourself, "My wife isn't interested in sex anymore," here are 3 tips for inspiring intimacy.

1. Examine your own actions:

Start by taking a long, hard look at yourself. Often, when a woman loses interest in the sexual side of her relationship with her husband, the husband's own actions can be a partial cause. Specifically, turn-offs for women include the man: failing to help out around the house, not giving his wife enough "me time" to recharge her batteries, not spending enough time in her presence, failing to show appreciation for all that she does, and/or not taking care of himself physically.

2. Bring the subject out into the open:

You need to find a kind, gentle way to bring the subject up to your wife. Remember, she is also very aware of the lack of activity in your sex life together. By starting a dialogue with her, you can diffuse the situation and set yourselves on the path to healing. Remember to use non-accusatory language: this situation is nobody's fault, so do not blame your wife when you speak to her.

3. Arrange to have some time away together:

Once you can get your wife to agree that you need to work on your sex life together, one surefire aphrodisiac is just the act of getting away together. Spend a weekend at a local motel or hotel, or do something more exotic. It doesn't matter. Just get away from responsibilities like your kids, your jobs, and chores around the house.

Try these 3 tips for inspiring more intimacy between you and your wife.

8 New Places to Have Sex at Home Besides the Bed

By Marian C

It's time to be adventurous! You need marriage help because your relationship with your spouse is falling apart. The root of your problem: sex. It's either there's too little sex or it's not as good as it were before. But don't worry, your dilemma may not be as serious as you think. Remember how you regained your inspiration for work - or even life - with a simple change of scenery? That could work wonders for your sex life, too!

Porch Swing

It's going to be physically demanding but yes, it is possible to have sex on the porch swing. The two of you could be seated on the swing or one of you could be standing - it's your choice, really. Of course, the thrill of being caught just adds to the excitement of it all.

Unfinished Room

Is there any room in the house that's currently being remodeled or renovated? If so, that's yet another perfect new setting for some hot and wild sex. You could do it on the floor - just make sure you don't end up literally lying on a bed of nails - or with your wife's back against the wall. It's all about finding the perfect spot and then letting your imagination free. Also, you can think of this as a new way of christening the most recent addition to your home.

The Rooftop

Who cares if you don't have a penthouse? The roof would do just as well in giving you a great view of the moon and the stars. After enough moments of romantic and cozy cuddling, it's time to get busy. Since you're way above most people's lines of sight, it's comparatively safe to take all your clothes off. There's still a risk of getting caught, but again, that's just going to make the sex even better. Also, having late night winds caress your skin would only serve to enhance your foreplay.

Living Room Table

Most people have probably tried making love on the kitchen counter already because that's always something you see on TV or books but have you ever tried making love on top of the center table of your living room? Give it a try and you'll realize that this particular setting creates its own kind of forbidden thrill. Just make sure there are no fragile or breakable décor in the area. They could be at grave risk when you start screaming and thrashing in pleasure.

This could be a bit more difficult to achieve if you've got a small center table but don't let that stop you!

The Banister

Again, many fictional works feature couples - regardless of whether they're married or not - having sex on the stairs. The End of the Affair - a movie featuring Ralph Fiennes and Julianne Moore - has a particularly good love scene with that kind of setting. Intercourse didn't exactly take place, but surely you'll know how to get from Point A to Point Z, right?

But here's a thought. Since this is all about broadening your sexual horizons as a couple, why not taking the making-love-on-the-staircase to the next level by hoisting your wife on the banister and making love there? Needless to say, it's best not to take a risk by starting at the very top of the staircase. The foot would do better because that way, you've not that far to fall if both of you lose your balance.

The great thing about this setting is that you can position your wife exactly the way you want her and in the way that would maximize sexual pleasure for both of you.

The banister is more of a good place for sexual foreplay than intercourse itself but if you do find a viable way to completely make love without breaking any bones then, please, do share!

Against the Windows

Figure a way to get rid of all other people at home - your kids, your in-laws, the household help - because this is one of the riskier ways to exploring your home for sexual encounters.

Next, choose any windows in your home - if it's full length then so much the better! The idea is to show nothing while you're completely exposed and doing something naughty with your spouse. Your wife could stand next to the windows, pretending to watch the daily going-ons in the neighborhood but in truth, she's trying to keep herself from screaming out pleasure as you enter her again and again from behind.

We're willing to bet that you're going to love this so much you'll want to do this again and again.

The Balcony

If you've already done it on the balcony of your hotel or resort suite then why shouldn't you make love on your very own balcony as well? Granted, the risk of being caught by someone you know is a lot higher but hey, what's life without a little danger here and there, right?

For the risk-averse couples, here's a compromise: you can make love on the floor of your balcony. No one's going to see you, but the idea that there could be - or there are - people outside going about their business while you have sex a couple of feet above them would put both of you on fire.

The Garage

Leave the garage door open. Then enjoy a little bit of naughty foreplay while in plain view of others. You could be tinkering with the car while your wife flashes you a glimpse of her nice body once in a while. The key is to do everything to arouse each other with no one else the wiser of what's happening.

If both of you have reached the point of no return, it's time to park your car with the trunk facing the street. Now open the hood of your car and stand behind it. You know what to do next, don't you?

These are not the only places besides the bed that you can enjoy sex at home. You just have to be more imaginative as usual and the sexual rewards will be infinite!